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Peace in the Valley

advent-bannerThere is a phrase I often think of this time of the year.  It’s associated with my dad in my thinking.  “What do you want for Christmas, daddy?” was our childhood question. To which he almost always replied, “Peace in the valley.”

As children we did not find that answer to be particularly helpful, nor easily understood.  I can remember puzzling over it in my thinking: Where is this valley?  Why isn’t there any peace there?  We did not live in a valley, though we lived near one – Chad valley.  Dad’s workplace was located, more or less, in that valley.  Maybe that was it?  We’d been through valleys on family vacations.  The one that comes to mind is Maggie Valley in North Carolina.  It was located on the Blue Ridge Parkway.  Perhaps they needed peace?  But the ease with which dad let his seasonal response roll off his tongue led me to believe there was more to this – this peace, in the valley; this valley peace.

Those of you who know gospel music will recognize this phrase as the title of a song. Continue reading

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Live Simply: Act Together

Those who know me well understand that I am an introvert.  This means I’m pretty good with quiet environments, working alone, taking long bike rides by myself, and not having to be the life of the party.  I’m good with all of that.  I’m OK in my own skin (so don’t feel sorry for me – it’s how I roll!)

However, I live a very public and people oriented life.  The life of pastoral ministry includes leading groups of people – in worship, in study, in prayer, in group work, and in mission. So I’ve learned to function as an introvert in what many perceive to be an extrovert role. I’ve come to understand when I need to push myself beyond isolation to take part in the group. And I’ve come to appreciate our need to act together as the body of Christ and people of God. Continue reading

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The Slow Work of Story Listening

I’ve long held to the belief that we all have a story that’s waiting, sometimes needing, to be told. Our story comes forth in bits and pieces, fragments of paragraph and run-on sentence. It is being written on the landscape of our days and recorded in the memory of our conscious experience; yet, increasingly, it seldom emerges in full form.

In the rush and hurry of today’s way of living, it’s rare that one gets to know a full chapter, let alone the greater book. We live in a world of tweets and posts, and video sound bites that have all but reduced our ability to listen and focus for any length of duration. (For example, you may be wondering, by now, if you even have time to invest in the remainder of this article!) Continue reading

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What do you do with disapointment?

One of the hardest parts of leadership can be disappointment. It doesn’t matter where you are leading; if you dare to lead, you will experience disappointment. You might be disappointed in the outcome of an event, project or initiative. You might be disappointed in those you lead and those with whom you collaborate. The disappointment might center on a colleague who didn’t follow through, or a volunteer who proved less committed than first thought. It might settle around how your group did or did not engage. You may even be disappointed with yourself. Disappointment is inherent to leading. It’s not a matter of if, or even so much when it will hit; what’s important is how you deal with it.

So, what do you do when you are disappointed as a leader in any of the above mentioned possibilities? What do you do with disappointment?

As I reflect on that question I want suggest just a few steps that have emerged over time, in my own practice of leading. These are steps I try to follow when disappointment makes an appearance:

Step One: Examine the source of your disappointment Continue reading

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Celebrating Short-Term Wins

I remember reading in John Kotter’s book Leading Change years ago about the importance of what he calls “short-term wins”. These are the small victories along the way when you are trying to leverage change that, when accomplished, give persons reason for hope. Whether the change is related to a personal goal such as changing your diet and exercise routine to lose weight, or tackling a “debt snowball” to get your financial house in order – we all need short-term wins. They are the measures of progress. They provide immediate, in the midst of it, feedback that our efforts are worth it. They keep us moving forward.

Translate this same thinking to the often more challenging work of leading a group through change and the same principle still applies Continue reading

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