What I Am Learning Being a Grandad

“This may just be the best job I’ve ever had!”

“Grandad”.  I didn’t know what to expect of this new, later-in-life title I was about to inherit upon the birth of our first grandchild.  People would often ask me, “How do you feel about becoming a grandparent?”  “I don’t know”, was my usual reply.  And that was me being honest.

But once that little boy (our first grandchild) arrived in this world, I think both my wife and I realized this was going to be great. Becoming a grandad was and is a blessed new role that’s been bestowed on me in my later years.

This role has taught me a lot.  I found myself reflecting on it once again over the past year as we welcomed our first granddaughters into the family. They, like their three older boy cousins, are wonderful.

What am I learning, being a grandad (now five times over)?  Here’s a working list that I have no doubt I will continue to add to:

• Naps are a gift – especially when holding a napping grandchild. Babies like contact time when they sleep and it’s good for grandparents too.
• It’s not always the outcome, but the process that counts.  Having a grandchild help you cook, garden, rake leaves, repair something . . . what a fun thing to be able to teach, watch & encourage.  The process is more important than the product.
• When they show up, drop what you’re doing – it can wait.  Having grandchildren has helped me learn the importance of the present. These moments are fleeting, don’t miss them.
• Every grandchild’s personality is unique and should be cherished as such.  Don’t play the comparison game, just enjoy each unique child on their own.
• Ice cream tastes better when you share it.
• Parents need a break once in a while – and so do their children.
• Having some one-on-one time with a grandchild can teach you a lot about that child.
• Sports feel way less competitive from the grandad chair.  Every team member deserves equal playing time!
• Who knew Legos could be so much fun?
• Toddlers take great joy in tearing down things. Especially aforementioned Legos.
• The laughter of a child is some of life’s best music.
• Discipline should be the realm of mom and dad.
• I’m in love with a Grandma (or “Lolly” in my case)!
• Don’t worry about keeping score in cards, basketball, soccer or any other shared game. Let the grand be the score keeper if that’s important to them.  Remember, they are always right.
• Enjoy the wonder of discovery through a grandchild’s eyes and other senses. This world is pretty incredible.  Sometimes our familiarity is a detriment to wonder – not so with a child.  Let them re-teach you.
• Collections are fun – sticks, rocks, bugs, Hot wheels . . . . you name it!
• Spend some money on those kids.  You can’t take it with you.  Better to enjoy a moment together now.  
• Little libraries are fun to visit while on a walk. 
• A piano is a magnet to little people.  Ear plugs might help.
• There’s nothing quite like raiding Lolly’s snack cabinet.  In my day it was Grandma’s cookie jar.
• A trip to Rural King just for the free popcorn is worth it!
• Watching your adult children parent is pretty cool.

These are just some of the things that I am learning.  I’m sure there will be more.  Can’t wait!

© Daniel M. Cash 2025